Three North

A friend of mine from college recently finished his first manuscript. I’m really excited about this because, although I’ve met many amazing people online who are in the same stage as me, it’s nice having a real-life friend there. Plus, having known him for around 11 years, I’m extremely proud and excited for him. It’s much more personal.

So as I wait for his manuscript to arrive, I’ve decided to re-read The Perks of Being a Wallflower for the 8th (or so?) time.

I just finished part one, with Charlie meeting Patrick and Sam and instantly diving into this new world of music, and light, and infinities. And it reminds me very much of my first year of college.

I moved up to Tallahassee knowing a few other people on campus, including my roommate. We were in high school drama together, and managed to room together, too. But she had a boyfriend, and spent most of her time with him. And my other friend there had his girlfriend, and was spending most of his time with her. And I was happy for them, but I was still there, in my dorm, trying to figure things out on my own.

It was one of those dorms that was a block off campus and had two wings (the north and south side) and a cafeteria in the middle. I lived on the third floor of the south side. While getting lunch, I met a girl and we instantly bonded over being new and excited and wanting to do so much. So after a few lunches together, we went to a movie at our on-campus theatre, and then she introduced me to some of her friends, people from her floor and the floor below. They were a ragtag group of people so similar to me. They were filmmakers and writers and ninjas and dreamers. And when I sat with them at lunch or dinner, they didn’t ignore me, or question why I was there – they integrated me into the conversation as if I’d always been a part of their group. As if I lived on their floor, too.

On Halloween, they took me to a party, and they day after they took me out for my birthday. And after that, I never looked back. I practically lived on their floor (three north), oftentimes crashing on one of their floors just because we all didn’t want to part when night drew near. Even though I lived just on the other side of the building. We were in our own little world that felt safe and secure and completely belonging to us. We had jokes and games. We felt part of something when seeing one another on campus. We, yes, felt infinite.

So I know how Charlie feels once he’s integrated into Patrick and Sam’s group. I know because I’ve been there, too. And one of the guys I met in my group? He’s the one sending me the manuscript.

Wanderlust

From the outside, my friend Shannon and I are remarkably similar. We’re both short, with her just 1.5 inches taller than me. We both have long, unruly brown hair that naturally curls and waves. We both have terrible eye-sight and wear plastic, brown glasses. We were both in the circus, and were roommates, and have a strange tendency to say the same words at times. We make similar faces. We love Disney movies.

But the similarities end there because, despite being best friends, we’re polar opposites. I crave stability, knowing where I am and what I’m doing. I have a job, a husband. We’re looking into buying a house soon. We have an apartment full of stuff and while all that might sound boring, it’s also reassuring and comfortable. I love living like this, I love knowing I’m okay. Shannon, on the other hand, is a wanderer. She can fit her entire life into her car. She’s moved to different states just for fun, and in a week she’s moving out of the country. Her job is tentative, but she doesn’t care. To her, it’s an experience, a chance to travel, a chance to live.

And yet, somehow our friendship works perfectly.

I realized that the other day as we were walking down our street (she is, at this moment, my neighbor). As we talked, my mind floated above us and instead of seeing us as who we are, I saw us as characters in a book. Her the girl who follows wanderlust and me the one who stays planted. It was neat seeing us like that, imagining what craziness we’d get up to as these characters. How, in theory, we should probably drive each other crazy, but how in actuality, we’re the perfect match.

Because in a way, we bring out something in one another. For her, I show her that stability is okay. She’s admitted to wanting to settle down one day. I make sure she’s okay; remind her to keep us updated during her travels in case of, well, emergencies. I bring out the logic in her.

And me? She made me go to a state park on my one day off. Usually I reserve that day for writing or bills or errands, but she took me to the springs and for the full afternoon we laid by the water, ate snacks, and took in the day. And it was fantastic. It’s not like I’d never been to the park before, I had many a time, but lately I’d been so wrapped up in feeling old and professional that I forgot what it was like to drop everything and live.

So I did. And I didn’t think of everything I had to do at home. I wrote notes in my journal for the book I’m working on because, as it turned out, this serenity made words come easier to me. And later, when we met up with a few friends, I didn’t care that I was wearing shorts from college that had paint stains on them. I didn’t care that my nose was the color of Rudolph’s and my freckles were at full visibility (that said, I quite like my freckles). I didn’t care that the spring water made my hair into a mass of curls and tangles. I just smiled and laughed and felt pretty.

Because I was living.

I know I can’t be like that all of the time – it’s not me – but I also know that I can add her influence just a bit. I know when she’s away, she’ll make sure things are in order because I gave that to her. And I know when she’s away I’ll spend more time doing rather than thinking because the sand is still on my sandals and I have no desire to wipe it off.

It’s that thing…

I love me some Stefon. He’s by far my favorite sketch on SNL right now. The things he says are beyond ridiculous, and Hader’s laughing makes it even better. (It’s beside the point that I totally ❤ Hader.) Anyway, with S’s birthday coming up, we decided to Stefon the Facebook invite up. What do you think?

SAMIR IS OLD

If you’re looking for a great way to spend a Friday evening look no further.

Orlando’s hottest party is “Samir is Old.”

It’s. Got. EVERYTHING.

Sting rays, collared shirts, Ukrainian people, a mortar without a pestle, And who’s that in the corner? Is that former presidential candidate Mike Huckabee? No, it’s a trashcan wearing a dress!

Come and celebrate with us and perhaps you’ll get to drink an Irish cement mixer.

You know, it’s that thing when when you mix a cocktail in the beak of a pelican and then immediately eat a raw potato and emigrate to the United States.

So come on over; we hope to see you there!

2012

Shannon, me, Katie

Here are two of my friends and I celebrating New Years Eve. Three things are abundantly clear from this photo:

  1. I have amazing friends.
  2. We’re very sad you’re not partying with us.
  3. I have rather large eyes.

Among other resolutions I’ve made this year (learn to knit, do some sort of physical activity besides riding my bicycle to work, do everything in my power to get my book published, start second book), I’d like to write more in this blog. I like this blog. It’s a good blog.

What are some of your resolutions for the new year?

Pre-Wedding Events

Here are a few of my favorite events that happened before the wedding:

Bachelorette Party – 

When I was in college, I played Alice in a play adaptation of Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland. Since then, I’ve had a great fascination and admiration for the character. I adore her innocence, and how it evolves and almost disappears by the end of the two-book series. I love her initial stubbornness, that later transforms to sheer passion and drive. That said, my bridesmaid Katie took my interest and turned it into the bachelorette party theme. She and my other bridesmaid Shannon planned it, and honestly, it couldn’t have gone better.

We stayed downtown in a super nice hotel suite for all five of us. There was red, black, and white confetti on the tables, next to “Eat Me” cupcakes and “Drink Me” beverages. Stirrers and napkins had the familiar playing card patterns. Even their gifts for me – which I shall not reveal – were red, black, and white (however, that wasn’t intentional).

We ate dinner at a tapas restaurant I’d wanted to go to called Ceviche. It was both fun and incredibly delicious. Then, we visited the clubs and bars downtown until the doors were shutting and our eyes couldn’t stay open any longer. We learned something important, though: even as a bachelorette party, when going to the fancier clubs, you’re just a statistic, nothing special. Yet, when going to the more hole-in-the-wall places, you’re royalty. We payed for one drink the entire night.  (Incidentally, I’ve always been one to prefer the hole-in-the-wall places, and not just for that reason. They’re more comfortable to me.) The next morning we had breakfast and left happy (albeit, slightly hung over).

Taco Night –

Due to work, my bachelorette party was the Saturday before my wedding. Many friends weren’t able to come, considering they lived out of state. To remedy this, the Wednesday night prior to the wedding (the same night Samir had his bachelor party), we had a mini girls night out. Eleven of us met at my favorite cheap Mexican restaurant near my apartment and – quite simply – caught up. Friends from high school and college met one another and got along as if they were old friends. It was easy and relaxed. After, we went back to my apartment and continued to the night. It wasn’t big and crazy, it was cozy and fun. It was exactly what I wanted. It gave me a moment to relax and actually catch up with some people before the real craziness began.

Work Party –

The following day, that Thursday, was my last day of work. Remember, I’m still new there, barely two months in, so it was incredibly nice of them to hire me knowing i’d need a decent amount of time off for the wedding and honeymoon. To me, that was all I could ask for. But they did even more. I came to to see raised eyebrows and hidden smiles from my co-workers. Confused, I walked to my door to find a giant balloon display. It was amazing! They also left me a card and gift certificate. I felt so…loved. And included.

Since the majority of our friends were in town by then, many decided to stop by. First were my bridesmaids Shannon and Sarah, who sat in my office for a bit to chat. It was so nice having them there, considering the three of us hadn’t been reunited in quite some time. (We were roommates in college, as well as fellow circus performers.) Then, Samir came by with three of the groomsmen. They’d been caught in a quick Florida down poor, so for the rest of the day, my office smelled like wet boy. Still, it was great seeing them. We had some hilarious conversations, and I was (for the most part) filled in on the bachelor party. (Samir and I had the luxury that we were friends with our entire bridal party. That is, I was close with his guys as well as he with my girls. It was so much better that way.)

I was let off work early that day (surprise!), so I walked across campus (with the balloons) excited to start my wedding weekend. At home, we played “Keep the balloon up” for about an hour with the groomsmen.

Running Charades –

There are no pictures of this night, and I’ll be forever sad about the fact. Samir had to go to the airport to pick up his sister, her fiance, and his friend from London, so I “babysat” the three groomsmen. Two friends in town, as well as two other bridesmaids decided to join us, and we went out for pizza at Mellow Mushroom. There, everyone got to know one another (as many hadn’t met the groomsmen before), and joked about the upcoming days. After dinner, we had two options: go out to a bar to hang out, or go back to my place to play running charades (a game we loved in college – I’ll explain later). Tom answered for all of us: “So, we’ll hit up Publix [supermarket] first to get drinks for the night first?” And so, our plan was made.

Back at our apartment, we hung out for a bit, and then engaged in the Best Game Ever. One person, the list-maker, is in charge, while everyone else breaks into two groups. The list-maker creates a charades list, usually with a theme (for instance, Lane’s first list featured jokes from that night). The two groups going to into two separate rooms. One person from each team goes to the list-maker to get the first clue, then runs back to his/her group to charade. Whoever from the team gets the answer, runs out to get the next clue and so on until the list is complete and one team is the winner. There’s a lot of running, and a lot of yelling (albeit quietly).

Samir and co. eventually joined us, adding a THIRD Tom to the mix (not confusing at all). Lists included “things from Lauren and Samir’s apartment,” “Things I think are awesome,” “Things from the 90s,” “Things from London.” Now, are clues aren’t as simple as “Puppies!” Oh no, they’re full-on sentences sometimes, or words you’d never heard of before. That’s what makes it more fun.

We got to bed around 2 a.m., with Tom #3 on our couch. It was, hands down, one of the most fun nights I’d had in a while. Samir and I fell asleep smiling, confident in the fact that the next few days would be epic.